The first time they smile at you with their eyes full of hope and life.….The first time they utter the words “dada, mama, mummy, papa”…. The very first time they stand and start walking….These are all their milestones that you look forward to, that you’re proud of, where you encourage your child, and walk with them, until they can truly stand on their feet. When they fall, you fall harder. When they fail, you feel as though you’ve failed thrice as hard. When they are hurt, you feel as though someone has driven a stake through your heart. But when they laugh with pure joy, or get that grade they’re working so hard for, or win that medal, sing, dance, play or dive into the passion that drives them, making them successful, you may feel as though you have won the stars.
Parenting, as difficult as it looks, is said to be a hundred times harder. Your child is a part of you, and so everything they feel, you feel in more depth. The terrible twos, the middle-school years, the rebellious teens, the anxious and scared young adults- each and every stage of the lifespan that you are part of with them is a challenge. You feel as though you cannot give up, because if at any point you do, what example would you be setting for your kid? You may feel as though masking your emotions and acting strong all the time, showing less love or more love, giving more freedom or none- may all be polarities that drive you almost insane as to what should be chosen. You feel as though any wrong step you take maybe the downfall of everything you don’t want happening. You may try not being the way your parents were, or may trying behaving the same way. Whatever you try to do, you may come to realise that there is no absolute right or wrong when it comes to parenting. Parenting is just a beautifully disastrous experience, with its ups and downs. It’s a combination of a roller-coaster, a plane-ride and swimming among the dolphins- all in one. It is demanding, but yet in its complexity lies its beauty.
With the way your children may behave, it may get frustrating, driving you to the edge, as if one more “no” or another defiant action would make you snap. You fear you may say something that you would be unable to take back. Maybe sometimes doubts creep in- was it too soon to have children? Am I doing wrong by them? Have I destroyed my life? Am I even a worthy parent? There are a number of questions that seep into your mind and you may not be able to answer them right away, but as time passes by you may find your answers in the present, in little hugs and kisses, in their little achievements, in their “good mornings, goodnights”. You may realise that in the experience lies the tranquillity. Sure, it is easier said than done, but in the doing itself is where you grow and learn, fall and rise, cry and laugh- altogether.
If your child has developmental issues, or is struggling with one or more areas in their lives, you may feel responsible, you may blame yourself, feel extreme sadness, denial, anger, question “why you, why us”. But you may again come to realise that your child is just perfect the way they are, and you would always want to be their rock to fall back on. You may face challenges and hurdles, but you try your best to get through them all, because with your courage and willpower, how can you give up?
We at Management Me know, understand and empathize with all that is part of parenting. We see the hurdles, the joys, the challenges, the cries. We know how easy it is to just leave and give up and how difficult it is to stay and keep trying. We recognize how the work-home-family balance can take a huge toll on your mental and physical health. We identify how financial stress, wanting the best education, clothes and gifts for your child may drive you to stop caring about yourself. We can tell how your child with personality issues, learning disorders, AUTISM or ADHD is struggling each day, and how much you are struggling to keep it together. We discern you want to do your best and want to be the best parent there is, giving your child everything there is to offer. You want to protect your kid, but you also need to let them go. We know how empty nesters may feel, we know how feeling lonely without them can affect you. We know how single parenting brings with itself a whole new set of challenges. We know. We care. We are here to listen. We are here for you.
Reach out to us, talk to us. We can together sort out your feelings, and work through them. We can together identify where you want to work harder, where you need to go easy, where and when you need a break. We can be a team. With our professional expertise and experience, we can target your problems and use different therapeutic techniques to bring about the change you think is needed. We can help you grow through your issues and equip you with strategies and techniques for the challenges that lie ahead.