OVERCOMING THE CHALLENGES IN RELATIONSHIPS

People tell us about how their partners have changed over time, and how this has made it difficult to get along with them. It is not uncommon nowadays for partners to drift apart after being in a long term relationship. Usually this is caused due to a buildup of minor issues which go unresolved. Today we examine some of the most common relationship problems couples tend to have. If you approach these issues with the appropriate mindset and knowledge, you will be able to nip them right in the bud and be on your way to a happy and healthy relationship.

1. Communication 

Relationships need effective, regular communication to thrive as a unit. Some couples treat every conversation as a confrontation. Others forget how vital communication is to happiness. To improve communication, try the following:

• Identify where your conversations break down
• Don’t expect your partner to read your mind
• Talk about your feelings freely

Communication is a two-way street. Effective communication should be a priority if you want your relationship to work in the long run. 

2. Arguments

Debates are healthy and a great way to express yourself. However, arguing only to make someone feel small serves no good purpose. Successful couples have rules such as:

• Taking time to think before responding 
• Refraining from using profanity
• Not bringing up the past

Try to figure out why you are angry, sad, or frustrated before yelling at your partner. Discuss things that are bothering you before they become problems or relationship challenges. Be respectful and express yourselves calmly.

3. Staying Close

Every relationship changes over time as you grow as individuals. It is unrealistic to expect people to stay the same throughout their lives. The experiences of life change people as they grow, adapt, and change. You may find that your partner doesn’t behave the same way he/she did when you first met. This does not mean that your relationship won’t work. All it means is that you have to spend time rediscovering one another. Talk about the future and honestly share how you both see it evolving. In a healthy relationship, change can be exciting.

4. Infidelity

Most affairs don’t typically happen spontaneously. Cheating hurts, and it can take years to get over. To be able to forgive your partner and repair the relationship post-affair, you and your partner need to be honest about what happened and then work together to solve any underlying issues.

 Although many relationships can endure after an affair, it requires a firm commitment from both partners to learn how to get over it.

5. Money

When it comes to living a comfortable life, money plays an important role. When financial pressures are not properly addressed, they can lead to relationship issues It is important to have a clear understanding between you and your spouse regarding who’s responsible for what. Just following a basic budget can reduce unnecessary arguments in a relationship.

6. Trauma

A loved one’s death, financial stress, diagnosis of a disease, chronic stress, childhood abuse, or anything else that you or your partner may have gone through in the past can create strain in your relationship. Don’t shut your partner out. You’re a team. Be there for each other, even when times are hard.

7. Showing Gratitude

It is important that both partners feel appreciated for the things they do to make each other’s lives more enjoyable. Offering regular appreciation can ensure your partner and you feel more noticed in the relationship, even if it is for something simple.

Your relationship issues can be resolved if you remember what first attracted you to your partner. Determine where the problem in your relationship stems from, and then take steps to resolve it. Be honest with your partner, and re-discover the excitement of your love.