The CRL METHOD by Life Designer Biji Tushar Fadia

“I feel lost, angry, and frustrated.”

“Feels like the world is against me.”

“I feel stuck”

“No one appreciates my work”

Do the above lines resonate with you? Do you feel like you are working hard but not making any progress?  

If your answer to the above questions is yes, then you aren’t alone. A large number of people today feel the same and the Pandemic has only amplified these feelings. While you can momentarily brush aside these thoughts by binge-watching your favorite TV series or performing daily routine tasks that keep your mind occupied for a while, we all know that these thoughts are bound to return and need to be addressed.

While there are many methods of introspection available online there is one that I have personally used.  This method has given me so much peace and happiness. I believe this is the best way to deal with strong feelings that pull you down and break you. Use the CRL method to make you feel energized and fill you with a sense of purpose.

The CRL method is a simple 3 step process and does not take a lot of your time. As seen below it involves stating your challenge, realizing that there are certain things beyond your control & some that you can act on, and finally coming up with learnings that can help you take necessary action.

Challenge: Today I am frustrated and irritated. I feel like banging my head against a wall!

Realization:                       

1. I can’t expect anything from someone who does not have the intention of helping me.
2. I can only teach someone who wants to learn.
3. The efforts that I am putting in are going to waste and knowing this is the real cause for my frustration and helplessness
4. I am bound by societal expectations

Learnings:

1. I choose not to spend my time with someone who does not resonate with my ideas, philosophy & attitude.

2. If it feels like too much of an effort then it’s not worth me or my time.

3. There are 2 types of efforts – one which I put in for my own growth and another which I put in merely to satisfy the demands of society.

4. I do not have to act like someone else. I can be my real self instead of being a people pleaser. I can Agree to Disagree.